"If you would be a real seeker after truth, it is necessary that at least once in your life you doubt, as far as possible, all things."
"Compassionate action involves working with ourselves as much as working with others."
I need to stop smoking marijuana but I'm finding it very very difficult. I've been smoking every day for over a year now and every time I stop smoking my boyfriend and I will bicker and get grumpy. When I don't have it I feel really depressed and lazy and irritated. I need to do it because it generally makes me feel comfortable with doing absolutely nothing and achieving nothing and I have to kick it but it's difficult. Do you have any suggestions or anything at all, Sam? :( <3
Make a clean break of it. If your boyfriend smokes around you this will be much harder. Get rid of all the bongs and other accoutrement. Wash the clothes that smell of weed. When the urge to smoke strikes then get up and get out. Just walk around the block. Eventually, your mind and body will make the adjustment.
I wish I grew up with a loving, compassionate, intelligent father. I've never met my father, he never wanted to know about my existence, it's caused many problems for me in my life. I can't trust anyone and I hate every part of me so much. Your daughter and your partner are very lucky girls.
Thank you for such kind words. You are not doomed to misery because your father was absent. Now, of course, having a father who chose not to be in your life is going to create some deeply held core beliefs which are going to lie deep in your mind and seep poison into your life. These must be identified, resolved and released. Your father and not you are responsible for his actions. He did not leave because of you. He left for his own selfish reasons. You are entitled to love and to be loved. You can be the warm, loving compassionate person that he is not. You can live your life in such a way as to blot out the memory of his selfish actions. In time, you may even come to forgive the unforgivable and to release the pent up anger and hurt. When you do, and you can do this, your heart will flood with warm light and a great weight shall be lifted from your shoulder and you will be free.
"We seldom realize, for example that our most private thoughts and emotions are not actually our own. For we think in terms of languages and images which we did not invent, but which were given to us by our society."